A world I want to see as an older person

I have seen older persons being made to take early retirement, either because they are unable to step up to the changing workplace or there are young and qualified young individuals, who the workplaces feel will add fresh perspectives. As also, there is stereotyping older persons as not suitable on account of perceived notions of age-related physical changes, challenges in keeping pace with rapidly evolving technologies, slower processing speed often misconstrued as signs of diminished capability. When I retired at the age of 58 (yes, 58 was the age in my bank) I felt I had a lot more left in me to contribute and learn, but I didn't get much of a choice, after retirement. So, I chose to do the next best thing and that is writing books, podcasting and content writing. Even so, if suitable opportunities had been available for me, I am sure I would have been able to address any limitations and contribute much more to the workplace and the society. 

A world I want to see as an older person - Hira Mehta 

According to me, older persons like me, have the best experience of working with diverse people and in changing work environments. Given a chance older persons can continue to contribute to society and add value. The society can also benefit from utilizing our skills and experience, if not in the corporate world, that suffers from the "age" syndrome, then maybe in other fields, such as education and training. While it is said age is never an issue, I still see it is a stumbling block in most professions and a barrier. The truth is that most older persons, like me, are still mentally and physically fit and prepared to work, but opportunities are few and sometimes difficult to find. There are many like me, who are continuing to seek gainful opportunities and then there are a number of older people who are happily retired and are enjoying their silver years. Then there is also that expectation from the children, emotionally drains older persons, especially when they are expected to look after grandkids after retirement, which can’t be overlooked. There still exists lack adequate job opportunities for those who want to continue to work, not to mention financial support, retirement benefits, inadequate social security and pensions for older persons. Unfortunately, our society is yet to recognize this as a social problem enough to promote age-friendly opportunities, environments and support.  

In every aspect of life there are pros and cons. I have realised that with the advent of social media, there has been a great deal of connectivity, but there is also lack of face-to-face communication, leading to social isolation and disconnection from society for some of my peers. Children are moving away from the homes to make their own nests, so the lack of social security or retirement benefits, the dependency on others for their care and daily needs or their own physical and mental health issues is becoming an issue for older persons. This is resulting in older persons being vulnerable to scams, abuse and with no one to care for their health and daily needs and it has been seen to lead on to issues like depression and loneliness. The family is still one of the biggest support systems for older people in India with around 82% of older people living with their families and yet prevalence of elder abuse in India ranges between 9.6% to 61.7% over different states. Financial inadequacy and issues such as inheritance or property disputes result in elder abuse cases. Most older people do not have access to legal assistance to safeguard their property rights, or protection for abuse related issues. Emotional support and guidance for such cases is also not easily available, either. Authorities, companies, societies still need to recognize and address health needs and safety needs of older persons to ensure that they can age with respect, inclusion, support and without any fear. Governments need to strengthen social welfare programs such as adequate pensions, legal support, health and financial schemes to ensure economic stability and reduced dependency on children. Studies have shown that regular physical and mental activity such as yoga, art of living, meditation is helping older persons. However, in urban India, there is a lack of open spaces, infrastructure, safe spaces, transport inaccessibility and access to such places. Rural India does have open spaces, but here there are other issues more important such as nutrition, awareness and education to manage first. 

As an older person, I want to see a world where workplaces and society offer good health services, social inclusion with opportunities for older persons to allow them to continue contributing their expertise, without being judged by their age. A world that allows me and all older persons, the independence to live on my own terms and with dignity at home and in society.  I see a range of tailor-made social activities and learning opportunities suited to my interests and abilities and being allowed to engage in enriching the lives of the next-gen with my years of experience and expertise. Retirement savings and pension plans, that adequately support the financial needs that ensure that older persons can afford a comfortable lifestyle without worry or stress is so necessary.  As we grow older, in making a good life for our families, we seem to forgot about living life and planning for old age and keep pushing it for later. I see older persons no longer burdened by responsibilities and demanding careers, with that dread of "what do I do now?". I remember, that I did not get the work I wanted after retirement and feeling lost for long. I see myself owning my lifestyle my way. I see some of my peers, perhaps starting businesses from home, enjoying their silver years volunteering or even running marathons. Let me share that I participated in marathons for many years, but today I can't even walk half a kilometre, let alone run, without looking for a place to sit down a while and I am sure if a dog were to run after me, I would get bitten for sure. I have 60+ girl friends who are enjoying 35 kms runs every morning and rightfully boasting about it on their social media pages and all I do is hit that 'like' button and move on. Even so, I see a world, where I have the right to choose what is best for me, without the comparisons and the comfort of getting to do it and looking forward to more without older persons like me, being stereotyped as not capable or suitable on account of age-related perceived notions. Older persons, like me, should feel safe and secure in their homes and neighbourhoods, with good support systems in place to address any concerns or emergencies promptly and with technologies seamlessly integrated empowering them to stay connected to society, family and friends. 

Let me end with this sharing. My father-in-law, a heart patient with loss of sight in one eye and half vision in the other for over ten years of his 99-year-old life, never stopped him from living life on his terms and following his heart. Despite uneven roads, traffic woes, he would walk to the temple ground close to home, meet his friends and return home with goodies for us. His memory never failed him and the stories he told, the songs he sang, the memories he shared embodied his entire being. Neither did it stop him from cooking meals for the family before I reached home, tired from work. I want to see myself living an independent life, just like he did, on my terms with good health, age-friendly environments, infrastructure, transportation, social inclusion and overall well-being support making it easy for me to live well.

By Hira Mehta | Author | Podcaster | Motivational Speaker | Soft Skills Trainer 

"A world I want to see as an older person with rights in my country and community. My thoughts at the Open-ended Working Group OEWG14, UN headquarters, New York, May'24" 

Caregiving and support for older persons

Learning and thoughts on Caregiving and Support for Older Persons at the Open-ended Working Group #OEWG14, UN headquarters, New York, 20th to 22nd May'24. 

Hira Mehta, official Spokesperson of Silver Inning Foundation at 14th OEWG, UN HQ, NYC, May'24 

Hira Mehta attended an in-person CSO Consultation on the implementation of Human Rights Council resolution on care and support during #OEWG14 on Ageing Rights for older persons (9 am-12 pm, 23 May 2024) at the UN Secretariat Building, UNHQ, New York as representative of Silver Inning Foundation. The meeting was chaired by Asako Hattori and moderated by Martyna Balciunaite, UN official. The topic of discussions were (1) what human rights are relevant for older persons as caregivers and receivers of care and support and (2) what are the specific challenges and rights issues faced by older persons facing discrimination in the context of providing or receiving care and support (older women, older persons with disability, older persons belonging to minorities, etc).

At this meeting, Hira spoke about Dementia and Alzheimer’s and grandparenting responsibilities, especially for women.

Most agreed with her thought that, grandparenting should be a choice and not an expected support. In urban India, the extended family living under one roof is not a given anymore and today's nuclear structure, means more expectations from older persons. In our culture, the role of the grandparent is perceived as a role to teach traditions, moral values, religious values and overseeing their well-being and more. Some older persons find themselves moving abroad every six months to look after the grand kids. While some easily adapt to a new place and society, others find it difficult to leave the old ways and find it difficult to adjust. The choice is often not given and that could cause a great deal of issues for older persons in the household.

Speaking about caregiving, Hira suggested that dementia be included in the disability package of health and health services as an essential, for providing comprehensive support, ensuring access to necessary medical and social services and alleviating the financial burden on families affected by dementia. Dementia causes significant cognitive impairment, affecting memory, reasoning, communication, and the ability to perform daily tasks. This aligns with the definition of disability as a condition that substantially limits one or more major life activities. She also mentioned that most of the time families treat it as old age issues and are unable to recognize it as dementia. Some are not willing to accept the fact and therefore early diagnose takes a back seat resulting in delay of treatment. Treating it as a disability will not only improve the quality of life for those with dementia, but also support the family and caregivers to deal with it effectively. Cost of care is high and dementia care will be expensive, with regard to medical treatments, long-term care services and out-of-pocket expenses. As dementia progresses, individuals will experience functional decline and require assistance with activities of daily living, such as bathing, dressing, eating, and managing medications. Individuals with dementia require regular attention and medical care to manage symptoms, monitor progression and treat comorbidity conditions. Long-term care is involved and many individuals with dementia will eventually need long-term care services, such as in-home care, adult day programs, assisted living, or nursing home care. Therefore, Hira requested that dementia be part of the disability package of health and health services, so that integrating it into disability packages will ensure that persons with dementia receive the support and care they need.

Irrespective of health and health services, governments and authorities should conduct public awareness campaigns to educate the public about dementia. It would help raise awareness about dementia, reduce stigma, and promote advocacy for better care and support services. Governments and health organizations also should develop policies that explicitly recognize dementia as a disability and outline the entitlements and services available. The society and community also need to support by expanding community-based support groups, adult day care centres and care programs.

UN 14th OEWG May'24 

One of the sharing that hit Hira hard at this meeting, was the sharing of a lady from the Far East. Belonging to the LGBTQ+ community, she talked about the stigma and discrimination, especially if institutionalized in the past or after having overcome mental issues, including anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation. Support groups are limited in number and despite increasing visibility and acceptance world over, social stigma and discrimination continue to impact her well-being. She called for attention towards continued efforts needed to ensure comprehensive legal protections, improve access to competent healthcare and combat social stigma and discrimination.

 Assisted living or Elder homes, is an option and respite for family caregivers, who need assistance during times of illness or travel or their own job constraints. Family members may get peace of mind knowing that their loved ones are receiving professional care and support in a safe and nurturing environment. Sadly, sometimes, older persons are not questioned about their preferences. Besides, older persons, may become vulnerable to exploitation, abuse, or neglect by caregivers and sometimes financially exploited too, if family does not pay attention or visit often enough. The 24/7 care by trained staff, helps ensure that older persons with complex medical needs or mobility issues receive the assistance they require. Dependence on caregivers for activities of daily living, the lack of mental stimulation and engagement in institutional settings, however, can accelerate cognitive decline, particularly for individuals with dementia or cognitive impairments. Older persons are at increased risk of experiencing depression, anxiety and other mental health issues with the loss of personal belongings and comfort, independence, social isolation and changes in assisted living environment with the limited privacy and loss of personal space. Financial burdens, particularly in places where long-term care services are expensive or not covered by insurance, often become the reason for home treatments for some families. High costs of care whether at home or assisted living option, can deplete the savings and assets, impacting financial status of the family. While institutionalization may be necessary for some older persons who require intensive care or support, it can have significant implications on mental health and quality of life.

In conclusion, caregiving is an essential aspect of an older person’s life cycle and therefore, it is necessary to continue raising awareness about the realities of caregiving and its cost. Advocating for policies that provide adequate support and resources, whether it is through community programs, government initiatives, or individual acts of kindness is important. There is a need to create a more compassionate and supportive environment, to ensure that both caregivers and care recipients receive the required assistance and resources.

~  Hira Mehta | Author | Podcaster | Motivational Speaker | Soft Skills Trainer

Assisted living Home good option for Age care

Assisted living is a way of life that is suited to those who need assistance with the activities of daily living. It is a good option for older adults and specially person with dementia, Alzheimer and Parkinson, who need assistance with daily living activities such as bathing, dressing, cooking and meal preparation. They also need 24 hour monitoring of their health because of their age and the fact that they might have physical limitations.

Older adults can live in assisted living facilities if they have the ability to meet their personal needs and there are no concerns about their safety or welfare. If you are considering moving into an assisted living facility it is important to know what aspects of care you will receive there so you feel comfortable with your decision.

Assisted living facilities offer many types of services for its residents. Some offer full-time nursing staff who will help with daily activities such as bathing, dressing and cooking meals for the resident as well as providing companionship during times when they are alone. Other facilities may only offer part-time nurses who will come by every morning or afternoon to help with daily tasks such as preparing meals and cleaning rooms before residents return home at night.

Assisted living homes for older adults are the best option for those who need some help with their daily activities. It is a good option to stay in a home where your needs are taken care of and you have access to facilities that can help you live independently.

Assisted living has many benefits for older adults. They feel safe, secure and comfortable with the help of staff members who are trained professionals. As they get older, these people may have trouble performing certain tasks on their own such as taking a shower or doing laundry. The staff will be there to assist them in performing these tasks which makes them feel at ease.

There are other benefits of assisted living like 24/7 monitoring of health conditions and medication administration which is impossible when you are on your own at home or in nursing homes or hospitals. You will also receive around-the-clock care from trained nurses and caregivers who can help out with personal care, household activities such as shopping, cooking and cleaning among others so that you don't have to worry about anything when you go out or when you're away from home because someone else will be there for you should something happen while you're out.

As we get older, our muscles may weaken, making it more difficult for us to do things like walk up stairs or lift heavy objects. In addition, our bones become more brittle as we age, which can make it harder for us to stay active and healthy. It’s a fact of life that as we age, our ability to perform some of the activities we once did becomes limited and sometimes difficult. This is especially true when it comes to physical activity and exercise.

Silver Innings program 'A1Snehanjali' offers assisted living elder care home near Mumbai, it offers a wide range of holistic services and amenities so residents can live comfortably while still being able to maintain a high quality of life.

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UMANG 2023 - India’s Largest Stage Talent Show for Senior Citizens

UMANG 2023 is presented by Rotary Club of Mumbai Nariman Point, Rotaract Club and Inner Wheel Club of Mumbai Nariman point in association with Silver Inning Foundation, NGO working with Senior Citizens.

UMANG’ a Unique Talent show of Senior Citizens is being organized by Silver Inning Foundation since 2008.

We at Silver Innings believe “Ageing is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength” – Betty Friedan.

USP about this unique event is that Participant and Audience do not belong to any particular organization, NGO or group. People from different part of Mumbai from Virar, Thane, Navi Mumbai to South Mumbai came to witness and perform the ageless talent.

This year UMANG 2023, is biggest ever Senior Citizens Stage Talent Show, this time total 170 Performers are presenting 21 Performance - breaking all previous years record. Total 1000 people will witness the Silver Magic

Event Date: Saturday 4th March 2023 Event Time: 9am to 12.30pm Venue: Birla Matoshree, New Marine Lines, near Bombay Hospital, Mumbai.

Entry through Invitation only. Registration is mandatory.

Our Networking Partners are: HelpAge India OYA - Open Your Arms Sophia College, Mumbai Nirmala Niketan Senior Citizens Alumni Association, The Federation of Senior Citizen's Organisations of Maharashtra (FESCOM) and Photomist.

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Website: https://silverinnings.in/

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Sailesh Mishra of Silver Innings Honored by Governor of Maharashtra

Governor of Maharashtra awards 35 inspiring innovators and entrepreneurs for outstanding contributions during COVID-19 pandemic 

Governor of Maharashtra Bhagat Singh Koshyari presented the Annual Impact Creator Awards 2021, to 35 innovators and entrepreneurs during an award ceremony held at Raj Bhavan, Mumbai on December 18, 2021.

Sailesh Mishra of Silver Innings being honored by Governor of Maharashtra 

The pandemic has tested the grit of humanity time and again. Despite the stature and strata, countless samaritans have gone above and beyond their line of duty to help their peers. Where the front-line workers such as the Doctors and Police have shown impeccable courage discharging their duties, start-ups, corporates and individuals have brought in innovation and impact. These real heroes have shone through their impeccable work.

Shweta Shalini, Official Spokesperson, BJP and Dr Abhay Jere, Chief Innovation Officer, Government of India, graced the occasion as guests of honour and encouraged the morale of the awardees.

The event was ably organized by Deepika Singh, Ex-CM Fellow with the help of Bhavesh Kothari, Director, Billennium Divas.

The event was digitally supported by Team SOS Nitelife. "It was a pleasure to serve the Governor's office in this impactful cause. Our team at SOS Nitelife were delighted to be amongst such dignitaries and impact creators" said Chand Seth, CMD, SOS Nitelife.

The list of awardees included notable names of industry stalwarts such as

1. BSE Ltd. - Ashish Kumar Chauhan

2. MPower Foundation - Neerja Birla

3. Nykaa - Falguni Nayar

4. Radhika Gupta of Edelweiss Mutual Fund

5. LXME represented by Priti Rathi Gupta

6. Capt. Raghu Raman of Remani Consultancy

7. Amisha Vora of Prabhudas Lilladher Pvt. Ltd.

8. Anas Rahman Junaid of Hurun India

9. Dr Akshay Batra of Dr Batras

10. Dr Radhakrishnan Pillai of Chanakya International Institute of Leadership Studies.

11. Kaya Clinic represented by Rajiv Nair

12. Confederation of Indian Industry (CII) represented by Jane Karkada

13. Enrich Salon represented by Binoli Patel

The presence of the aforementioned mavericks was complemented by outstanding start-ups and entrepreneurs for their innovative solutions that have impacted millions during the pandemic encompassing areas such as financial inclusion, agritech, social impact, food supply and logistics, corporate governance and evangelists that have helped the state through technological interventions. They include:

1. Flipspaces - Kunal Sharma

2. Fasal - Shailendra Tiwari

3. Ranveer Allahbadia - The RanveerShow,

4. MahaKavach - Amit Kothawade and team

5. BMC COVID 19 War Room - Shubham Pareek and Janak Shah

6. United Way India - Jayanti Shukla

7. Portea - Smt. Meena Ganesh

8. QR 678 - Dr Debraj Shome and Dr Rinky Kapoor

9. Flextool Equipments - Purvang Shah

10. FIGGITAL.COM - Kamaljeet Singh Bhatia

11. Superpro AI - Gaurav Tripathi

12. Exampil - Dharmesh Ruparel

13. Sailesh Mishra - Silver Innings Group

14. CreditAI - Sangram Nayaka

15. Lean Meal Co - Mohak Bhingarkar and Jay Krishnanunny

16. Cloudphysician - Dhruv Joshi

17. Swasth Alliance- Ajay Nair

18. BodyCafe - Tanushree Ishani and Pooja Karegoudar

19. ASIMOV Robotics - Jayakrishnan T

20. Autovoltz Robotics - Yash Deshmukh

21. Kavitul Technologies - Yogesh Patel

The event was supported by partners such as QR678, FLIPSPACES, Good Earth Engineering Industries, Figgital.com, SOS Nitelife, Lean Meal Co, Hunk Golden, BodyCafe and arranged by Billennium Divas.

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Don't raise age bar for concession, senior citizens urges railways

 The speculation gathered steam as previously it was decided not to bring the rail travel concession back after it was stopped during Covid.

A senior citizen group has written to the railway's ministry, requesting not to increase the cut-off age of senior citizens for travel concessions. Recently, there were reports that the government was considering increasing the cut-off age to 70 years for males and 65 years for females. The speculation gathered steam as previously it was decided not to bring the rail travel concession back after it was stopped during Covid.

The senior citizen group has said that the average life expectancy for males is less than 70 years as per 'SRS (sample registration system) Based Abridged Life Tables, 2015-19', which was recently released by the registrar general and census commissioner's office. As per the SRS report, the national average stood at 69.7 but for males, it was 68.4 while for females it was 71.1.

Prior to the pandemic, the cut-off age for the concession was 60 for men or transgender, and 58 for women. Concessions were given in all classes in the basic fare of mail and express trains; not to mention, Rajdhani, Shatabdi, Jan Shatabdi and Duronto group of trains. The concession was 40 per cent for men or transgender and 50 per cent for women. The concessions were not admissible in passenger trains.

Silver Innings Group, an NGO working for issues of senior citizens, has asked Union minister of state for railways Raosaheb Danve to reconsider the decision. “We have written to the government to reconsider the issue based on the data received through RTI and SRS report. The standing committee has said that the concessions should be restored,” said Silver Linings Group founder president Sailesh Mishra.

As per RTI's reply to Mishra, the number of senior citizens, who availed concessions in the three-year period before the pandemic, is 11.11 crore in 2017-18, 12.02 crore in 2018-19 and 12.07 crore in 2019-20. In the same period, the revenue missed due to concessions stood at Rs 1,492 crore for 2017-18, Rs 1,636 crore for 2018-19 and Rs 1,667 crore for 2019-20.

Asserting that the decision to stop concession during the pandemic was reasonable as the railways were financially-hit, Mishra reasoned, “But, now things have opened up and trains have been restored to their original schedule. It is a huge loss for senior citizens in urban and rural areas as railways are the fastest and cheapest mode of transport for them.” If public employees and elected representatives can get relief in their travel, why should senior citizens not get any relief? Earlier, the age difference was five to seven years between husband and wife. If a male will not be able to travel, how will a female go? Because the cut-off excludes most males as per their age, people in rural areas will suffer more, Mishra underscored.

Sailesh Mishra from NGO working for the elderly said, "We have written to the government to reconsider the issue based on the data. If public employees and elected representatives can get relief in their travel, why should senior citizens not get any relief?

Post courtesy : https://www.freepressjournal.in/mumbai/mumbai-dont-raise-age-bar-for-concession-senior-citizens-urges-railways 

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Anvayaa organizes a Fire Side Chat on Dementia Care

 Anvayaa,  India’s first and only IoT and AI tech-based start-up platform providing Companionship and Care to the elders hosted a Fireside chat on World Alzheimer’s Day themed ‘Know Alzheimer’s Know Dementia – Post diagnosis support’.  The panel was attended by Dr. Sanjay R Kumawat, Director, Insight Mind Care Center, Thane, Consultant Psychiatrist, Mr. Sailesh Mishra, Founder, Silver Innings Group, Dr. Manish Chhabria, Consultant Neurology, Sir H.N. Reliance Foundation Hospital & Research Centre, and Mr. Prashanth Reddy, Founder, and Managing Director, Anvayaa Kin-Care Pvt Ltd along with other guests and senior citizens. The chat focused on an insightful discussion on challenges faced by caregivers and family in diagnosis and post-diagnosis care for elders with Dementia and the supportive eco-system required for effective management of such elders.

‘Dementia’ is generally considered a part of aging; however, it does not occur naturally. Alzheimer’s Disease is the most common factor causing Dementia. As per the DementiaInIndia   & #LASI Wave-I report, around 5.3 Million Indians were affected by #Dementia in 2020. This number is likely to go up to a staggering 14 Million by the year 2050. Besides the diagnosis, post-diagnosis care, caregiver burnout, unique treatment plan, and unique challenges in taking care of elders with dementia. A personalized treatment plan enabling regular monitoring and tracking of the elderly is necessary because it manifests differently in different people and across the stages of progression. As the condition of the elderly worsens without adequate care and professional support, the whole family is bound to suffer great stress and pain.

Anvayaa’s one-of-a-kind #DementiaCarePlans are designed to reduce caregiver fatigue and the frustration the family goes through. Anvayaa has repeatedly shown that despite the lack of a cure for dementia, there is still a great deal that is possible to help people with dementia.  In comparison with other conditions faced by seniors, Alzheimer’s disease and dementia have very different symptoms and results. The pathogenesis of dementia is a progressive decline in cognitive function (memory, reasoning, decision-making, judgment, etc.), ultimately affecting bodily function. Dementia affects every aspect of a senior’s life, making specialized and personalized care even more essential. Although every case of dementia is unique, here are some things that may happen to a senior with these conditions’ general loss of memory, language, and decision-making abilities, dementia can cause other symptoms. These include changes in mood, such as increased irritability, depression, and anxiety. This requires compassionate and specialized training of caregivers to deal with the elderly. Early detection and diagnosis of Dementia can greatly help in slowing down the rate of deterioration and immensely helps in providing a much better quality of life for our beloved elders and their families.

According to Mr. Prashanth Reddy, Founder and Managing Director of Anvayaa Kin-Care Pvt Ltd, said, “We are happy to associate with Silver Innings, Dr. Sanjay R Kumawat, Clinical Psychiatrist, and Dr. Manish Chhabria, Consultant Neurology to host this fireside chat to spread awareness about Alzheimer’s disease and dementia on the occasion of World Alzheimer’s Day.  Our aim is to identify the critical challenges faced during post-diagnosis care of people with dementia. We have also developed ‘AI Enabled at Home Anvayaa’s Dementia Care Plan’ for compassionate care through a team of specially trained ‘Care Specialists’ who are guided by a team of qualified clinicians to provide customized support to persons with dementia and help the families to prevent burnout. The enlightening session today, will help Anvayaa further improve the services and help elders live a dignified life.  We firmly believe that although Alzheimer’s cannot be reversed, however with strategic interventions along with the trust and support of the elders and their families we can definitely help to delay the progress. We have already been able to positively improve the quality of life of persons with dementia in the last few months and hope to continuously improve our services and help more elders with dementia.”

Speaking on the occasion Mr. Sailesh Mishra, Founder, Silver Innings Group “It is a pleasure to associate with Anvayaa Kin Care and Dr. Sanjay R Kumawat for this necessary dialogue. As the world is progressing Dementia & Alzheimer’s are turning into a new Pandemics , and if India does not wake up then it will be difficult to handle. These diseases not only affect people with Dementia but also is a social, economic, and psychological burden on millions of families and caregivers.

Adding to this Dr. Sanjay R Kumawat, Director, Consultant Psychiatrist, Insight Mind Care Center said, “It is high time that we sensitize the community about Alzheimer’s disease and Dementia. These conditions are difficult to identify and diagnose. The post-diagnosis care is even more challenging both for the patient and the family. With the present lifestyle, it is time to be prepared for caring and understanding the patient with dementia. We should also make efforts to avoid the disease by adopting a healthy lifestyle. I would like to thank the entire team of Anvayaa to come forward and organize such an enlightening discussion on Dementia Care.”

Anvayaa has extensively grown and presently serves different services such as companionship, caretakers, tech instruction for elders, visiting temples or malls-assisting the elderly with shopping and other errands through our care managers. With technology-driven initiatives, Anvayaa guarantees senior residents with services including crisis care and social commitment. Over the past 6 years, Anvayaa has handled 350+ medical emergencies and provided immediate logistic support to the elderly to get access to healthcare in time as a result of which Anvayaa was able to save 97% of lives.

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Remember Me Podcast: Empathy with Seniors बुजुर्ग से हमदर्दी

Listen to interesting perspective of  Sailesh Mishra - fonder of Silver Innings in this short soulful podcast on World Elders Day ( International Day of Older Persons) 1st October 2022. 

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7INyUqPk6dzy6tPbxHyz4l?si=vIEc45OuRYW6piShh6nPrA

Listen here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7INyUqPk6dzy6tPbxHyz4l?si=vIEc45OuRYW6piShh6nPrA 

Soulful Talk of Sailesh Mishra, Silver Innings by RJ  RICHA ANIRUDH, Credit and copyright : Big Heroes 92.7 Big FM Delhi. This podcast is for educational and non commercial purpose only. 

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Remember Me Podcast: Rail no Way to Seniors - RTI

Indian railways have discontinued concession for Senior Citizens since 20th March 2020, let's get insight and our demand and RTI Reply

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4bBVGq7DBFq2VhaPEu2ZXt?si=0XDm1v1NTmSS0KSbvx0-ww

Episode 3: Rail no Way to Seniors - RTI

'Remember Me' Podcast: Why I started my Podcast

Dear Friends, I have started my #Podcast #RememberME - My Soulful Thoughts on Life, Journey and Human Habitat .

This episode is about: Conversations are key to human development, we need to talk, listen to enrich ourselves

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4XSfuEnvNdcFYs6FCDj89J?si=c8a365b70d774248

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Episode 2: Why I started my Podcast

JAC of Senior Citizens Demands for BMC Elections 2022

 Joint Action Committee (JAC) Press Conference was held on 8th June 2022 at Mumbai Marathi Patrakar Sangh, Mumbai.

Silver Shakti!!!!!!!!

To make the 'Silver Voices' heard loud and clear and to make the 'Silver Presence' in society graceful and dignified; we have formed the Joint Action Committee (JAC) of various Organizations, NGOs working for Senior Citizens, researchers and academicians dedicated to the cause of elderly in Mumbai.  The Committee will strive to work with the BMC and various Political Parties to mainstream the special needs and demands of senior citizens.  We demand all Political parties to include issues of Senior Citizens in their Election Manifesto, as they are not only an important vote bank but also the important stakeholders with an estimated 25% of the Voting Population. If the Political Parties and Leaders fail to meet our Demands, we as the Powerful Vote bank will be forced to use NOTA in the upcoming BMC Elections.

A report released by the Ministry of Statistics, GOI in March 2019 said that the number of citizens over the age of 60 jumped by 35.5 per cent — from 7.6 crore in 2001 to 10.3 crore in 2011. In the upcoming elections, this population will be a major factor in deciding who comes to power. In Maharashtra, Senior citizens form around 10% of state population, which comes to an estimated 1.30 crore of Maharashtra’s and in Mumbai itself constitutes approximately 15 lakhs. 

The right to vote is the foundation of any democracy. The vote represents the voice of people and is therefore a powerful tool to exercise to bring about a change in their city and their country as a whole. Senior Citizen are Committed Voters and understand the importance of voting and engage in the process to become egalitarianism warriors in their own communities. Issues such as health care, medical facilities, prices of medicines, pensions, Shelter, retirement schemes and transportation, special attention for poor and homeless, will be upper most in the minds of the older people. To make sure that their needs are met and concerns are heard is the very need of the hour. 

Based on constitutional and legal provisions, Government of India and Maharashtra state government has formulated various policies and devised various programmes for the elders including National Policy for the Older Persons 1999 and Maharashtra Senior Citizens Policy 2013 and subsequently in 2018. However, these have remained only on Paper. After advocacy and constant struggle by Senior Citizens Originations from 2010 to 2013, The Brihanmumbai Municipal Corporation (BMC) on 5th August 2013 through its Resolution no. 622 cleared the Senior Citizens Policy in its general body meeting, which is first such policy by any Municipal Corporation in the country. This policy, which includes the provision of day care facilities and recreation grounds for them in every municipal ward as also medical helpline services and amenities in open spaces, was announced on 2013.  Further benefits included in the policy are, dedicated spaces for senior citizens in large housing complexes, library with books on spirituality and health, and ramps, railings at public toilets. Senior citizens would also be provided specialized healthcare at select civic hospitals for hypertension, diabetes, loss of vision and other ailments.  For the first phase of implementation, BMC had agreed to form a committee headed by the then Mayor Sunil Prabhu.

But it is with great regret and disappointment we note that a pittance of the expected work has been done by BMC after announcement of this Policy. A few Day care facilities and a few Nana Nani parks have been set up only at the whims and fancies of the Councilors. To make it worse there is no Budgetary provision has been made for the implementation of the Policy. It is shameful to state that an RTI filed for details of expenditure has received no response.

Based on the recommendations of the United Nations to which India is a signatory and the policies for senior citizens to which Central and State Governments have committed, the JAC demands the following:

                            I Finance and Planning  

a) Make a definite budgetary provision for the welfare and security of elders in the Senior Citizens policy, allocate 10% of BMC budget to Senior Citizens Policy 

b) Raise CSR funds for effective Implementation of initiatives for elders 

c) Corporators need to spend minimum 10% of their allocated funds for the welfare of Senior Citizens 

d) Form ‘Senior Citizens Policy Committee’ at HQ as well as at all the 24 administrative wards for Planning and Implementation. Senior Citizens Policy Committee’ to meet regularly for monitoring and evaluating implementation and progress of initiatives.  

e) Permanent Office for ‘BMC Senior Citizens Bhavan’ at a central, convenient accessible location.

f) Appointment of a Nodal Officer at the rank of Joint Commissioner/ Deputy Commissioner to monitor the progress of the implementation of the policies and programmes as well as to address the grievances of the senior citizens

g) The Community Development Officer (C.D.O.) / Social Worker at BMC to work on Seniors program, projects awareness, planning, implementation 

II Health Care and Nutrition - Health care should be affordable and accessible to all senior citizens 

a) Free medical treatment for all senior citizens at all Government Hospitals and Primary Health Center 

b) Establishment of a Geriatric ward at every Government hospital. Appoint Geriatric Expert / Doctors in all BMC hospitals

c) 'Mahatma Jyotirao Phule Jan Arogya Yojana' to be implemented at all hospitals and specially for Elders with no documents and homeless

d) Free / Subsidized Medicines / Generic Medicine to be made available

e) Reserve 10% bed for Geriatric population in private hospitals / nursing homes

f) Introduce the WHO Recommended Adult Vaccination Programme. Priority to senior citizens in all Vaccinations and Health Care initiatives

g) OPD special section / desk for Seniors / Display of Notice board at every hospitals of available facilities for Seniors  

h) Free / Subsidized Diagnosis at Government hospitals and clinics

i) MMC (Mobile Medical Clinic) for elders living in poor communities and elders below BPL

j) Wellness and Prevention program like Yoga, Alternative Therapies, AYUSH, Health camps for Seniors

k) Mental Health Screening in collaboration with BMC Hospitals 

l) MID Day Meal to be extended to poor seniors. To initiate GOI POSHAN Abhiyaan / Shiv Bhojan like scheme 

III   Shelter and Welfare: 

a) Multipurpose Senior Citizens Full Day Care Centre

b) Dementia Day Care Centre 

c) Respite Stay Centre

d) Homeless Elders Night Shelter

e) Policy for protection of Senior citizens during natural and manmade disasters  

f) Specific spaces and facilities to be reserved in Development Control and Promotion Regulations (DCPR), SRA and MHADA for Senior Citizens - Day Care Centres

                   IV    Protection of life and property of Senior Citizens

a) Legal Aid Cell to work on issues and problems faced by the elders

b) Special concession in Water and Property tax for Old Age Homes and Seniors Day Care Centers 

c) Provision to establish BMC Retired person's special cell  

d) Involve NSS and Civil Defense officers and volunteers for Safety and Security of Seniors

e) Special Call Center for Senior Citizens issues  

V Accessibility, transport and Age friendly environment

a) Application of WHO Global Age-friendly Cities Guidelines to city planning

b) Accessible, affordable and safe public transport

c) Age-friendly driving conditions and parking facilities

d) Age-friendly buildings, pavements and walkways, safe pedestrian crossings and adequate rest areas

e) Affordable, well-designed and safe housing 

f) Auto, Taxi, Water Transport to be sensitize towards Seniors

g) Special Concession and Travel arrangement for Senior Citizens in BMC Buses 

h) Age Friendly, Accessible Public Washroom and Sanitation 

VI Capacity Building and Visibility

a) Training of Caregivers, Para Professionals, Medical professionals  

b) Mandatory Celebration of Days of Senior Citizens : 15th June World Elder Abuse Awareness Day; 21st September World Alzheimer's Day  and 1st October World Elders Day  

c) Training and Sensitization of Senior Citizens Associations towards formation, management, of Trust / Society and various program and schemes of BMC

d) To give visibility to BMC Senior Citizens program and projects through Print, Audio Visual and social media 

e) To strengthen research and documentation in social gerontology

We the Senior Citizens of this City, State and Country are Responsible Citizens; we have wisdom, experience and time, we are asset to the Society, we are always willing to help government and authorities for welfare of society at large, we need Independence, Freedom, Security and Dignity; we can’t be ignored or neglected any more. We expect that we will see the importance of senior citizens and their demands in the election manifesto of your party and your candidates.

JAC Spokespersons for Coordination:

Dr. Rekha Bhatkhande  - Spokespersons

Vijay Aundhe - Spokespersons 

Prakash Borgaonkar - Spokespersons 

Adv. Nirmala Samant Prabhavalkar - Spokesperson

Sailesh Mishra - Coordinator

LIST OF JAC MEMBERS:

1. Adhata Trust

2. All India Bank Retirees Federation  

3. All India Central Government Pensioners Association

4. All India Retired Insurance Employees Federation

5. All India Retired Reserve Bank Employee Association

6. Brihan Mumbai Pensioners Association 

7. Brihan Mumbai Retired Employees Association

8. Center for Life Long Learning , TISS

9. Centre for the Study of Social Change (RRTC Mumbai) 

10. College of Social Work ( Autonomous) Nirmala Niketan

11. Dignity Foundation 

12. Dilasa Kendra of Shushrusha Citizens Cooperative Hospital, Mumbai

13. FESCOM  

14. General Insurance Pensioners, All India Federation  

15. GIC Pensioners Association 

16. Help Age India 

17. Indian Association of Retired persons (IARP) Mumbai 

18. Money Life Foundation

19. MTNL Pensioners Workers Associations

20. Silver Inning Foundation 

21. Sophia College (AUTONOMOUS)

22. The Family Welfare Agency 

Unsung Heroes of Covid Pandemic by Hira Mehta

While we were always talking about how to tackle climate change and pollution and grumbling about no time to spend with family, God just decided he had enough. He decided to step in and here we are. A deadly virus locked down the world and disrupted our lives in such a way that it will probably take us years and years to recover from it.  Economy, livelihood and the very freedom of living life was snatched from us and we lost loved ones in 2020 and 2021. No one was ever prepared for this onslaught. With this came a pandemic of human sufferings.  Thousands of families, including daily wage earners, senior citizens, widows, transgenders, migrant workers, old age homes and orphanages residents, etc, were impacted. But then when we face a situation with helpless times of distress, we not only find ourselves, but humanity comes alive and we actually became truly 'human' with small act of kindness. In this very frightening environment, there emerged #CovidHeroes who stepped out of their comfort zones to help others without worrying about their own safety.  One such Unsung Heroes of Covid Pandemic is Sailesh Mishra of Silver Innings. 

People found new strengths and qualities, they never knew they possessed and the deadliest virus that took lives also gave back our lives to live anew. In a long time people stopped to smell the flowers, as they say. However, in all the good, there is something we seemed to have side stepped. The importance of the impact the virus had on seniors, which cannot be understated. It is at this stage, that most seniors actually required more care and support but sadly, it did not happen. It has affected their psychology, physical strength, behavioral patterns and they have become quite unstable and unsure of themselves.

Impact on Seniors

The COVID-19 pandemic caused untold fear and suffering for seniors across the world. As the virus spread rapidly to developing countries, the death rate for seniors also rose rapidly. Health care was denied for conditions unrelated to COVID-19 as the case rose. Seniors, especially those with medical problems like cardiovascular disease, diabetes, chronic respiratory disease and cancer became more likely to contract the virus. Neglect and abuse in elder care facilities impacted their well-being and mental health. 

The first wave of #Covid came suddenly and with the hasty lockdown and no proper guidelines, it was all was trial and error. When a national lockdown was declared, the citizens, especially senior citizens who were already suffering with other illness or co-morbidity were asked to stay at home and not step out. Daily walks, exercise routines, access to doctor, health care, medicine, food, recreation, caregivers, housekeeping was suddenly stopped. The pandemic impacted the health of seniors living on their own, that of seniors whose children were settled abroad and even of those living with their families in different ways. Misinformation and negative news added to the panic. To add to this, was the uncertainty and fear that they might not be fit enough to travel or perhaps never be able to travel abroad or within the country, to see their children in the near future. As time passed, restriction in movement, communication problems and social distancing lead to social isolation, not just with seniors, but every member of the family. Children, who were used to their space began to feel suffocated working from home and it impacted their interaction with their parents too. Everyone was head down into mobiles or laptops and even talking to seniors about  their daily routine went missing. With no entertainment or physical interaction, the atmosphere at home was affected and in some cases finances, work pressures and stress in the family became issues.  

The good part was that many organisations started virtual socializing and online events to keep seniors from being completely isolated while in lockdown. Some taught them skills like handling finance, making video calls while some created on-line contests. This helped a great deal in lessening the feeling of isolation and disconnect. However, living in urban India, most of us tend to forget about those seniors living in rural India, who have also been affected by the pandemic and social distancing norms. Workers have migrated back to their home towns and this has led to an increased risk of exposure to the virus among rural communities. There is lack of awareness, low levels of nutrition, ill-equipped and insufficient public health centers too. Worst was the impact on women of all ages trapped at home with abusive husbands and their drinking problems.   

But where there are problems, there are also people who find the solutions.  #CovidHeroes, such as Actor, Sonu Sood helped migrant workers of all ages, to reach homes and even arranged foods and shelters for those stuck in the lockdown. Closer to home is my friend and inspiration, Sailesh Mishra, Founder, Silver Innings, who has been tirelessly helping seniors living alone at home and seniors at his own resident's home, since the first wave of the virus struck. Another friend, Dipesh Tank, a Mumbai-based anti-trafficking activist, distributed reflectors to stick on the backs of migrants to ensure their safety as they walked home on the highways. How can we even forget those unsung #CovidHeroes who went out of the way to help seniors and others, find oxygen cylinders, hospital beds and provided them medicines, provisions, etc? These heroes restored our faith in humanity each day during the darkest hours of the pandemic, despite the several challenges faced.

Challenges faced by seniors 

Sailesh Mishra adds ‘Seniors are socially vulnerable and the lockdown brought with it a whole lot of other problems, such as insomnia, depression and those not directly related to the pandemic. Some of the notable challenges’ :

 Efforts to protect the mental and physical health of seniors as also that of health workers, caregivers, volunteers and community leaders became difficult. Mental health took back seat. 

 Everything was sudden and unsystematic with no proper protocol or guidelines. There was a complete lack of coordination between different authorities from the Police to Municipality to Medical health workers, Health care professionals and so on.

 With no public transport and restriction on movement, the caregivers and care partners could not attend to seniors. No one was available for home care. 

 Caregivers, medical professionals and nurses were unable to attend to the seniors as housing societies refused entry. Societies acted tough and did not allow people to visit, or home deliver grocery, medicine, food etc.

 Seniors who spent evenings on the garden bench with their peers felt disconnected and at a loss.

 Family members with person with Dementia and disability at their home faced  challenging times. 

 Physiological changes that come with ageing and other health conditions spiraled and reports of increase in Elder Abuse began to do the rounds.

 Single  and seniors living on their own suffered most especially as they  faced challenges to use Digital media.

 In rural India, the non-availability of transport, medical aid, food, absence of family members and even loss of employment and ignorance and myths around the pandemic and its transmission, affected the mental health of the seniors in remote parts of the country.

 Misinformation, co morbidity, shortage and accessibility of the vaccination drive took time to get resolved, but by then many had already suffered at the hands of the virus.   

Way Forward Learnings as suggested by Sailesh Mishra Team Silver Innings 

 Social distancing should  not result in social disengagement, in any way

 Create disaster management plans for times like the pandemic, especially for seniors with special focus on food, clothing, shelter, health care, recreation, livelihood, security and rehabilitation with dignity 

 Make old age care as ‘Essential Services’ in the manifesto

 Create a national single point contact center for seniors with a mental care helpline and outbound calls to understand their needs and well-being. 

 Identify, understand and resolve the challenges currently faced by seniors, not just in urban areas but in rural areas of the country too.

 Involve NGO’s, educational institutes, relevant authorities, etc. and create a university course on old age care with special SOP for Dementia and mental health.  

 Involve local communities and societies to take care of seniors in their areas. 

Youth with new technology and seniors with their experience, need to work together to create a better inclusive environment for all. Protecting senior citizens rights will help them to lead dignified, secure lives, as equal members of society will enable them to be treated with respect on an equal basis with younger people. Providing care and comfort to enable them lead a healthy life without worries and anxiety is their right. Ageing cannot be prevented and everyone grows old. We do not need another pandemic to teach us how to deal with the well being of our seniors.  

'Warrior of Change' Award for Silver Innings by Governor of Maharashtra

Honorable Governor of Maharashtra presented 'Warrior of Change' Award at the Annual Impact Creator Awards 2021 to 35 Inspiring Innovators and Entrepreneurs for their outstanding contributions during COVID-19 pandemic. 

Sailesh Mishra, Founder President of Silver Innings group was given prestigious 'Warrior of Change' Award for their 'TEAM Silver Innings' excellent selfless work during Covid Pandemic 2021 and 2022, at the Annual Impact Creator Awards 2021 by Governor of Maharashtra on 18th Dec 2021 at Rajbhavan, Mumbai. 

Sailesh Mishra of Silver Innings receiving award

The Annual Impact Creator Awards 2021 organized by ‘Billennium Divas’ were presented to 35 innovators and impact creators in various areas during the COVID-19 pandemic period. The pandemic has tested the grit of humanity time and again. Despite the stature and strata, countless Samaritans have gone above and beyond their line of duty to help their peers. Where the front-line workers such as Doctors and Police have shown impeccable courage discharging their duties, start-ups, corporates and individuals have brought in innovation and impact. These real heroes have shone through their impeccable work. Chief Evangelist of Billennium Divas Ms. Shweta Shalini, Chief Innovation Officer, Government of India, Dr. Abhay Jere graced the occasion as Guests of Honour, along with Smt. Minal Kothari, Director and Shri. Bhavesh Kothari, Director – Billennium Divas Pvt. Ltd with the help of Ms. Deepika Singh, Ex-Chief Minister’s Fellow.

Group photo 

The list of Awardees included notable names and stalwarts from industry such as: 

1. BSE Ltd. - Shri. Ashishkumar Chauhan

2. MPower Foundation - Smt. Neerja Birla

3. Nykaa - Smt. Falguni Nayar

4. Smt. Radhika Gupta of Edelweiss Mutual Fund

5. LXME represented by Smt. Priti Rathi Gupta

6. Capt. Raghu Raman of Remani Consultancy

7. Smt. Amisha Vora of Prabhudas Lilladher Pvt. Ltd.

8. Shri. Anas Rahman Junaid of Hurun India

9. Dr. Akshay Batra of Dr. Batras

10. Dr. Radhakrishnan Pillai of Chanakya International Institute of Leadership Studies.

11. Kaya Clinic represented by Shri. Rajiv Nair

12. Confederation of Indian Industry (CII) represented by Mr. Sudhir Mutalik

13. Enrich Salon represented by Ms. Binoli Patel

 

Book Launch

The presence of the aforementioned mavericks was complemented by outstanding start-ups and entrepreneurs for their innovative solutions that have impacted millions during the pandemic encompassing areas such as Healthtech, Fintech, Agritech, Social impact, foodtech and logistics, corporate governance and evangelists that have helped the state through technological interventions.

These include eminent names such as

1. Flipspaces - Shri. Kunal Sharma

2. Fasal - Shri. Shailendra Tiwari

3. Shri. Ranveer Allahbadia - The RanveerShow,

4. MahaKavach - Shri. Amit Kothawade and team

5. BMC COVID 19 War Room - Shri. Shubham Pareek and Shri. Janak Shah

6. United Way India - Smt. Jayanti Shukla.

7. Portea – Smt. Meena Ganesh

8. QR 678 - Dr. Debraj Shome and Dr. Rinky Kapoor

9. FIGGITAL.COM - Shri. Kamaljeet Singh Bhatia

10. Superpro AI - Shri. Gaurav Tripathi

11. Exampil - Shri. Dharmesh Ruparel

12. Shri. Sailesh Mishra - Silver Innings Group

13. CreditAI - Shri. Sangram Nayaka

14. Lean Meal Co - Smt. Mohak Bhingarkar and Shri. Jay Krishnanunny

15. Cloudphysician - Shri. Dhruv Joshi

16. Swasth Alliance- Shri. Ajay Nair

17. BodyCafé - Smt. Tanushree Ishani and Smt. Pooja Karegoudar

18. ASIMOV Robotics – Shri. Jayakrishnan T

19. Autovoltz Robotics – Shri. Yash Deshmukh

20. Kavitul Technologies - Shri. Yogesh Patel

21. Dr. Balsing Rajput

22. Flextool Equipments – Shri. Purvang Shah were among those felicitated on this occasion.

The event was ably supported by partners such as QR678, FLIPSPACES, Good Earth Engineering Industries, Figgital.com, SOS Nitelife, Lean Meal Co, Hunk Golden and BodyCafe. Our Special Thanks and Gratitude to the entire staff at Raj Bhavan for their hospitality and their whole hearted support in making this event a memorable one.

Link to the scintillating moments of the “Annual Impact Creator Awards 2021” (#ICA2021) - https://youtu.be/jytwBkC7wPA

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Humans of Dementia - Raynah Remedios

 Making her father happier in his sunset years

Dementia and Alzheimer's were words Raynah had heard of, but could never truly comprehend. All she thought was that it perhaps had something to do with old age. She never realised the seriousness of the condition until it hit home and affected their lives as a family. Raynah lived in another city so her parents would visit her for about a month every year and she would visit them from time to time. 

There would be tell-tale signs in her father’s behaviour but as all do, would pass it off as absent mindedness or forgetfulness that was part of the ageing. There was this one time, when she saw him walking about with his dark glasses on. At first she ignored it but when she saw him reading the newspaper with his dark glasses on, she asked why? When he replied, “No wonder it is so dark! I was wondering why there is no light in your house." it made her wonder but not enough to be worried.

There were other such instances, which she dismissed off, like he would misplace things regularly, repeat the same stories or ask the same questions over and over again. She recalls that her mother was upset because he hadn’t wished her and thought that he was just being mean but he actually did not remember what day it was.  From not remembering names, not remembering days, years, birthdays to being unable to keep accounts, misplacing money, forgetting ATM pins, her father soon lost interest in doing the things he loved, like watching sports, movies and the news on TV. What worried Raynah more was that he stopped reading the newspaper, a ritual he had practiced religiously all his life.  

The family had till then still not realised that dementia had set in a while ago and was now progressing at an alarming rate.  When they finally took him to get some tests done, the doctor said that he should have been brought in five years ago. Everything quickly began to fall apart a few months after his diagnosis, as her father started to lose control over his bodily functions and would hide his soiled clothes in embarrassment. He used to love to eat and never wasted food but now he was now pushing his plate aside, barely eating a few morsels. His appetite diminished and slowly his personality started to change as well and would not talk much to anyone. He was angry a lot more and got aggressive when he would not be allowed to go out on his own. Her father walked out of the house often, would wander on the streets, get on to trains and buses and they would be forced to follow him, so he did not get lost. Raynah and her mother soon realised that there would be no permanent solution for this situation. 

On their next visit to the doctor, the family was told that the medication was not helping and the only option was to sedate him. The continuous sleeping most of the day left him disoriented and disheartened by the side effects, so the family decided not to continue to sedate him. When Raynah realised that her mother, who was his sole care giver, could not manage the pressures of looking after him all day any more, they began to reach out to people in the hope to find support and care. Of the options available, Raynah came to the conclusion that ‘A1Snehanjali’, dementia care facility of Silver Innings was the best place to give him the 24 hour attention, assistance and after  visit to the facility, they felt confident that he would be well looked after there. 

 

The choice to put their father in ‘A1Snehanjali’ wasn’t an easy one. It came with a guilt and disappointment of not being able to provide the comfort he needed and having to reach out to someone better equipped to help their father live out the remainder of his life, away from all his loved ones. ‘A1Snehanjali’ and their team proved to be the right choice and have not only been keeping him engaged but they have helped him retain some of his cognitive ability too. While his memory and cognitive and physical capabilities continue to deteriorate as the disease progresses, the family's only solace is that he is being taken good care of and doesn’t know what is happening. That he is happy and at peace in his own world, is now enough for the family.

Shared by Raynah Remedios, Daughter

Edited and Complied by Hira Mehta

Courtesy: 'Remember ME - You Me and Dementia' Book https://www.amazon.in/dp/9385221051 

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