A world I want to see as an older person

I have seen older persons being made to take early retirement, either because they are unable to step up to the changing workplace or there are young and qualified young individuals, who the workplaces feel will add fresh perspectives. As also, there is stereotyping older persons as not suitable on account of perceived notions of age-related physical changes, challenges in keeping pace with rapidly evolving technologies, slower processing speed often misconstrued as signs of diminished capability. When I retired at the age of 58 (yes, 58 was the age in my bank) I felt I had a lot more left in me to contribute and learn, but I didn't get much of a choice, after retirement. So, I chose to do the next best thing and that is writing books, podcasting and content writing. Even so, if suitable opportunities had been available for me, I am sure I would have been able to address any limitations and contribute much more to the workplace and the society. 

A world I want to see as an older person - Hira Mehta 

According to me, older persons like me, have the best experience of working with diverse people and in changing work environments. Given a chance older persons can continue to contribute to society and add value. The society can also benefit from utilizing our skills and experience, if not in the corporate world, that suffers from the "age" syndrome, then maybe in other fields, such as education and training. While it is said age is never an issue, I still see it is a stumbling block in most professions and a barrier. The truth is that most older persons, like me, are still mentally and physically fit and prepared to work, but opportunities are few and sometimes difficult to find. There are many like me, who are continuing to seek gainful opportunities and then there are a number of older people who are happily retired and are enjoying their silver years. Then there is also that expectation from the children, emotionally drains older persons, especially when they are expected to look after grandkids after retirement, which can’t be overlooked. There still exists lack adequate job opportunities for those who want to continue to work, not to mention financial support, retirement benefits, inadequate social security and pensions for older persons. Unfortunately, our society is yet to recognize this as a social problem enough to promote age-friendly opportunities, environments and support.  

In every aspect of life there are pros and cons. I have realised that with the advent of social media, there has been a great deal of connectivity, but there is also lack of face-to-face communication, leading to social isolation and disconnection from society for some of my peers. Children are moving away from the homes to make their own nests, so the lack of social security or retirement benefits, the dependency on others for their care and daily needs or their own physical and mental health issues is becoming an issue for older persons. This is resulting in older persons being vulnerable to scams, abuse and with no one to care for their health and daily needs and it has been seen to lead on to issues like depression and loneliness. The family is still one of the biggest support systems for older people in India with around 82% of older people living with their families and yet prevalence of elder abuse in India ranges between 9.6% to 61.7% over different states. Financial inadequacy and issues such as inheritance or property disputes result in elder abuse cases. Most older people do not have access to legal assistance to safeguard their property rights, or protection for abuse related issues. Emotional support and guidance for such cases is also not easily available, either. Authorities, companies, societies still need to recognize and address health needs and safety needs of older persons to ensure that they can age with respect, inclusion, support and without any fear. Governments need to strengthen social welfare programs such as adequate pensions, legal support, health and financial schemes to ensure economic stability and reduced dependency on children. Studies have shown that regular physical and mental activity such as yoga, art of living, meditation is helping older persons. However, in urban India, there is a lack of open spaces, infrastructure, safe spaces, transport inaccessibility and access to such places. Rural India does have open spaces, but here there are other issues more important such as nutrition, awareness and education to manage first. 

As an older person, I want to see a world where workplaces and society offer good health services, social inclusion with opportunities for older persons to allow them to continue contributing their expertise, without being judged by their age. A world that allows me and all older persons, the independence to live on my own terms and with dignity at home and in society.  I see a range of tailor-made social activities and learning opportunities suited to my interests and abilities and being allowed to engage in enriching the lives of the next-gen with my years of experience and expertise. Retirement savings and pension plans, that adequately support the financial needs that ensure that older persons can afford a comfortable lifestyle without worry or stress is so necessary.  As we grow older, in making a good life for our families, we seem to forgot about living life and planning for old age and keep pushing it for later. I see older persons no longer burdened by responsibilities and demanding careers, with that dread of "what do I do now?". I remember, that I did not get the work I wanted after retirement and feeling lost for long. I see myself owning my lifestyle my way. I see some of my peers, perhaps starting businesses from home, enjoying their silver years volunteering or even running marathons. Let me share that I participated in marathons for many years, but today I can't even walk half a kilometre, let alone run, without looking for a place to sit down a while and I am sure if a dog were to run after me, I would get bitten for sure. I have 60+ girl friends who are enjoying 35 kms runs every morning and rightfully boasting about it on their social media pages and all I do is hit that 'like' button and move on. Even so, I see a world, where I have the right to choose what is best for me, without the comparisons and the comfort of getting to do it and looking forward to more without older persons like me, being stereotyped as not capable or suitable on account of age-related perceived notions. Older persons, like me, should feel safe and secure in their homes and neighbourhoods, with good support systems in place to address any concerns or emergencies promptly and with technologies seamlessly integrated empowering them to stay connected to society, family and friends. 

Let me end with this sharing. My father-in-law, a heart patient with loss of sight in one eye and half vision in the other for over ten years of his 99-year-old life, never stopped him from living life on his terms and following his heart. Despite uneven roads, traffic woes, he would walk to the temple ground close to home, meet his friends and return home with goodies for us. His memory never failed him and the stories he told, the songs he sang, the memories he shared embodied his entire being. Neither did it stop him from cooking meals for the family before I reached home, tired from work. I want to see myself living an independent life, just like he did, on my terms with good health, age-friendly environments, infrastructure, transportation, social inclusion and overall well-being support making it easy for me to live well.

By Hira Mehta | Author | Podcaster | Motivational Speaker | Soft Skills Trainer 

"A world I want to see as an older person with rights in my country and community. My thoughts at the Open-ended Working Group OEWG14, UN headquarters, New York, May'24" 

Caregiving and support for older persons

Learning and thoughts on Caregiving and Support for Older Persons at the Open-ended Working Group #OEWG14, UN headquarters, New York, 20th to 22nd May'24. 

Hira Mehta, official Spokesperson of Silver Inning Foundation at 14th OEWG, UN HQ, NYC, May'24 

Hira Mehta attended an in-person CSO Consultation on the implementation of Human Rights Council resolution on care and support during #OEWG14 on Ageing Rights for older persons (9 am-12 pm, 23 May 2024) at the UN Secretariat Building, UNHQ, New York as representative of Silver Inning Foundation. The meeting was chaired by Asako Hattori and moderated by Martyna Balciunaite, UN official. The topic of discussions were (1) what human rights are relevant for older persons as caregivers and receivers of care and support and (2) what are the specific challenges and rights issues faced by older persons facing discrimination in the context of providing or receiving care and support (older women, older persons with disability, older persons belonging to minorities, etc).

At this meeting, Hira spoke about Dementia and Alzheimer’s and grandparenting responsibilities, especially for women.

Most agreed with her thought that, grandparenting should be a choice and not an expected support. In urban India, the extended family living under one roof is not a given anymore and today's nuclear structure, means more expectations from older persons. In our culture, the role of the grandparent is perceived as a role to teach traditions, moral values, religious values and overseeing their well-being and more. Some older persons find themselves moving abroad every six months to look after the grand kids. While some easily adapt to a new place and society, others find it difficult to leave the old ways and find it difficult to adjust. The choice is often not given and that could cause a great deal of issues for older persons in the household.

Speaking about caregiving, Hira suggested that dementia be included in the disability package of health and health services as an essential, for providing comprehensive support, ensuring access to necessary medical and social services and alleviating the financial burden on families affected by dementia. Dementia causes significant cognitive impairment, affecting memory, reasoning, communication, and the ability to perform daily tasks. This aligns with the definition of disability as a condition that substantially limits one or more major life activities. She also mentioned that most of the time families treat it as old age issues and are unable to recognize it as dementia. Some are not willing to accept the fact and therefore early diagnose takes a back seat resulting in delay of treatment. Treating it as a disability will not only improve the quality of life for those with dementia, but also support the family and caregivers to deal with it effectively. Cost of care is high and dementia care will be expensive, with regard to medical treatments, long-term care services and out-of-pocket expenses. As dementia progresses, individuals will experience functional decline and require assistance with activities of daily living, such as bathing, dressing, eating, and managing medications. Individuals with dementia require regular attention and medical care to manage symptoms, monitor progression and treat comorbidity conditions. Long-term care is involved and many individuals with dementia will eventually need long-term care services, such as in-home care, adult day programs, assisted living, or nursing home care. Therefore, Hira requested that dementia be part of the disability package of health and health services, so that integrating it into disability packages will ensure that persons with dementia receive the support and care they need.

Irrespective of health and health services, governments and authorities should conduct public awareness campaigns to educate the public about dementia. It would help raise awareness about dementia, reduce stigma, and promote advocacy for better care and support services. Governments and health organizations also should develop policies that explicitly recognize dementia as a disability and outline the entitlements and services available. The society and community also need to support by expanding community-based support groups, adult day care centres and care programs.

UN 14th OEWG May'24 

One of the sharing that hit Hira hard at this meeting, was the sharing of a lady from the Far East. Belonging to the LGBTQ+ community, she talked about the stigma and discrimination, especially if institutionalized in the past or after having overcome mental issues, including anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation. Support groups are limited in number and despite increasing visibility and acceptance world over, social stigma and discrimination continue to impact her well-being. She called for attention towards continued efforts needed to ensure comprehensive legal protections, improve access to competent healthcare and combat social stigma and discrimination.

 Assisted living or Elder homes, is an option and respite for family caregivers, who need assistance during times of illness or travel or their own job constraints. Family members may get peace of mind knowing that their loved ones are receiving professional care and support in a safe and nurturing environment. Sadly, sometimes, older persons are not questioned about their preferences. Besides, older persons, may become vulnerable to exploitation, abuse, or neglect by caregivers and sometimes financially exploited too, if family does not pay attention or visit often enough. The 24/7 care by trained staff, helps ensure that older persons with complex medical needs or mobility issues receive the assistance they require. Dependence on caregivers for activities of daily living, the lack of mental stimulation and engagement in institutional settings, however, can accelerate cognitive decline, particularly for individuals with dementia or cognitive impairments. Older persons are at increased risk of experiencing depression, anxiety and other mental health issues with the loss of personal belongings and comfort, independence, social isolation and changes in assisted living environment with the limited privacy and loss of personal space. Financial burdens, particularly in places where long-term care services are expensive or not covered by insurance, often become the reason for home treatments for some families. High costs of care whether at home or assisted living option, can deplete the savings and assets, impacting financial status of the family. While institutionalization may be necessary for some older persons who require intensive care or support, it can have significant implications on mental health and quality of life.

In conclusion, caregiving is an essential aspect of an older person’s life cycle and therefore, it is necessary to continue raising awareness about the realities of caregiving and its cost. Advocating for policies that provide adequate support and resources, whether it is through community programs, government initiatives, or individual acts of kindness is important. There is a need to create a more compassionate and supportive environment, to ensure that both caregivers and care recipients receive the required assistance and resources.

~  Hira Mehta | Author | Podcaster | Motivational Speaker | Soft Skills Trainer

Silver Inning Foundation Oral Statement for UN 14th OEWG on Ageing

Hira Mehta - Spokesperson of Silver Inning Foundation presenting Oral Statement at UN 14th OEWG

 I am Hira Mehta from Silver Inning Foundation, an NGO working with older persons across India. 

In India, 149 million older persons are in 60 plus age group belonging to diverse cultures. More than 65% live in rural area and 90% have no social security. Most of the older persons depend on the family support system. Today, changing values are weakening inter-generational ties that is hallmark of our traditional family institution. 

At age of 58, I was mentally and physically fit, but I had to retire without choice. This left me feeling socially isolated, lost and disturbed for a long time, because I felt I was capable of more. Today, with meager 14$ pension per month, I struggle to live decent life and find it difficult to access and afford right health care.   

Challenges that are significantly influencing older persons’ right to health are unavailability of healthcare facilities and services, lack of awareness, education, early detection and prevention, as also socio-economic factors, such as disparities between urban and rural lifestyle. 

As Older Person I want to ‘Age with Rights’ to maintain healthy well-being with dignity. Therefore, multi-faceted approach with robust healthcare policies, increased investment in healthcare infrastructure, access, affordability and prioritization of preventive healthcare is required. More importantly, expansion of health insurance coverage for all older persons is also needed.  

India, has sizable population of persons with Alzheimer’s disease. Illiteracy and social taboos surround this disease, I must admit that for a long time, even I did not know the difference between age related and dementia related issues. Hence, there is a strong need for awareness campaigns, training, well-defined policy and national dementia plan.  

We align with the statement made by ‘Global Alliance for the Rights of Older People’, a ‘UN Convention for Older Person Rights’ would guarantee older persons’ access to affordable healthcare to help them maintain optimum level of physical, mental and emotional well-being and prevent or delay the onset of illness, to live life with dignity and self-fulfilment. 

Date 20th May'24 

Photo of Civil Society Group at UN 14th OEWG on Ageing

The 14th session of the UN Open-ended Working Group on Ageing (OEWG) was held between 20-24th May 2024 in New York. It is a critical time for civil society to maintain pressure for the adoption of a United Nations' Convention on the rights of older people. 

How to Connect with your Elders

We live in 21st century where Change is fast and constant, there is so much happening in our life and its difficult to keep the pace and take everyone along. New Development, urge to grow, explore new things and stay ahead from all; is not only taking toll on our mental and physical health but also on our relationship. In all this, fast 'vertical growth' of our life we unknowingly leave behind some and the gap between generations is growing. While we move ahead we forget basic ethics of life which can keep bond between families and humans intact. In this life journey our Elders at home and elders in our life suffer most and they live life in isolation and loneliness. Our Elder deserve Respect and they need us, they need youth to connect with them. Different generations coming together will not only help our human development and keep family together but it will also let our Elders know that we value them, we care for them, we respect them. 

Don't Leave Your Elders Behind 

With our Silver Innings experiences and wonderful article by 'Wits End Parenting and Hunter Rising' we have found out some basic ways, Tips; which will help you to start the conversation and connect to your Elders and these meaningful ways will help to build wonderful relationship with your elders. Our mission is to #LeaveNoOneBehind .

Tip 1 : Give them a Call, it can be either audio call or video call and message them when ever you have time. It might be not possible to visit them, but hearing your voice or seeing you, will make them feel good and they will appreciate it. 

Tip 2 : Whenever possible visit them it can be surprise visit. Plan a visit according to their daily routine, seeing you in person and that face to face chat will boost their well-being. 

Tip 3: Elders like when someone greets them, shake hand, giving hug or say Namaste. Talk to them in normal tone, talk slow and in simple language; remember happy face makes things better; communication is important for any relationship.  

 Tip 4: Elders love when we seek their Advice. They are rich source of experience, they have knowledge, they have lived the life of ups and down. You can seek their advice on job, relationship, happy life and issues you are not clear about, elder like to be heard  and let them know you appreciate their advice.  

Tip 5: Everyone of us has a story and our Elders have many stories to be told. They love to talk about their life, their job, their travel, their friendship, their family moments, their struggle; give them ears and they will love you.  

Tip 6: Elders like when you give them compliment and when you admire them; tell them that they have made good contribution to family, they have made positive contribution to you and people around.  Appreciate them. 

Tip 7: Find out if your Elder or some Elder you know is in difficulty, offer them Help, Ask them if they need help in medication, grocery, utility payments, activity of daily living; this will help them to feel that they are not alone.   

Tip 8: There is nothing in this world better then enjoying meal together; sitting down and having tea, coffee, snack or meal together is excellent way of  socializing and bonding.  Have a 'Meal Date' with Elder and make that small meal chat, its Friendship between generation.  

Tip 9: We all love Celebration, whether its festivals, match, win or our special days, birthdays. Celebrate these Special days with your elders, either at home, planned holiday or hotels. Let them know they are not Forgotten. 

Tip 10: Due to ageing, ours Elders have specific needs, it can be while sleeping, seating; make them comfortable, be gentle to them, understand them and ask them if they need anything.   

Tip 11: It is always better to make person independent and not be over protective, Elders will need space, let them do things till they can. Make things easier for them. 

Tip 12: If you don't have your home nearby or your elder staying near you, its nice to reach out to elders in community, society, elder home, nursing homes, assisted living, dementia home, adult day care. Visit once a week or when ever you have time and spending meaningful time with elders through activities, events, picnics, recreation, entertainment; will only add life to years of these elders.  

At Silver Innings since 2008 we are working towards creating Elder and Dementia Friendly World where Ageing becomes a Positive and Rewarding Experience.

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Concept by #SilverInnings 

Intergenerational Benefits for Older Adults

Intergenerational Connections: Importance for Older Adults

As people age, they often find themselves disconnected from the younger generation, which can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and disconnection. However, studies have shown that intergenerational connections can have numerous benefits for older adults, including improved mental and physical health, increased social support, and a sense of purpose and meaning in life. In this essay, we will explore the importance of intergenerational connections for older adults and how they can benefit from these relationships.

The importance of intergenerational relationships for older adults cannot be overstated. Interacting with individuals from different generations can provide many benefits for older adults, including enhanced cognitive abilities, improved emotional well-being, and a greater sense of purpose and meaning in life. This essay will explore the various benefits of intergenerational relationships for older adults and provide examples of how older adults can engage with younger generations.

Firstly, intergenerational relationships can help older adults maintain cognitive function. Research shows that older adults who engage in intergenerational activities have better cognitive abilities, such as memory, attention, and problem-solving skills. This is because intergenerational interactions challenge older adults to think outside of their usual patterns and perspectives, which can stimulate their brains and enhance their cognitive abilities. For example, older adults who engage in activities with younger generations, such as playing games or solving puzzles together, can improve their cognitive abilities and prevent cognitive decline.

Secondly, intergenerational relationships can improve emotional well-being for older adults. Older adults often experience loneliness and social isolation, which can have negative effects on their mental health. However, intergenerational relationships can provide older adults with social support, companionship, and a sense of purpose. For example, older adults who volunteer with younger generations, such as mentoring or tutoring programs, can experience a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction from helping others. Additionally, intergenerational relationships can provide older adults with opportunities to learn new skills or knowledge from younger generations, which can boost their confidence and self-esteem.

Thirdly, intergenerational relationships can give older adults a sense of purpose and meaning in life. Older adults may feel a loss of purpose or relevance as they age, especially if they have retired or experienced other life transitions. However, intergenerational relationships can provide older adults with a sense of purpose and a reason to keep learning and growing. For example, older adults who engage in intergenerational activities, such as teaching or mentoring younger generations, can feel valued and important. Additionally, intergenerational relationships can help older adults see the world from a different perspective and gain a deeper understanding of the needs and challenges of younger generations.

Intergenerational connections can improve the mental and physical health of older adults. Social isolation and loneliness have been linked to a range of negative health outcomes, including increased risk of cardiovascular disease, depression, and cognitive decline. However, studies have shown that older adults who have regular interactions with younger people have better mental and physical health outcomes than those who do not. For example, a study conducted by the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) found that older adults who participated in intergenerational programs had lower rates of depression, improved cognitive function, and a greater sense of purpose and meaning in life.

One more example of an intergenerational program that benefits older adults is the Experience Corps. This program pairs older adults with elementary school students, where they serve as tutors and mentors. The program has been shown to improve academic outcomes for students and enhance emotional well-being for older adults. Another example is the Foster Grandparent Program, which connects older adults with at-risk youth in their communities. Older adults serve as role models and provide emotional support for these children, which can improve their well-being and reduce behavioral problems.

Furthermore, intergenerational connections can provide older adults with increased social support, which can be particularly important for those who live alone or have limited social networks. Studies have shown that older adults who have regular contact with younger people report higher levels of social support, which can lead to greater feelings of happiness, well-being, and life satisfaction. Additionally, intergenerational relationships can provide older adults with opportunities to mentor and guide younger people, which can help them feel valued and respected within their communities.

Another benefit of intergenerational connections for older adults is the sense of purpose and meaning that comes from engaging with younger generations. Many older adults struggle with finding purpose and meaning in their lives after retirement, particularly if they feel disconnected from the larger community. However, intergenerational programs and relationships can provide older adults with opportunities to share their knowledge and experiences with younger people, which can give them a sense of purpose and meaning in life. Additionally, older adults who participate in intergenerational programs often report feeling more connected to their communities and more engaged in civic life.

There are many ways in which older adults can engage with younger generations to experience the benefits of intergenerational relationships. For example, older adults can volunteer with organizations that work with children or young adults, such as schools, libraries, or community centers. They can also participate in intergenerational programs, such as mentoring or tutoring programs, where they can share their knowledge and skills with younger generations. Additionally, older adults can engage in activities that bring together people of different ages, such as community service projects or cultural events.

Finally, intergenerational connections can help to break down age-based stereotypes and promote understanding between generations. In today's society, age-based stereotypes are often perpetuated by the media and other cultural institutions, which can lead to negative attitudes and beliefs about older adults. However, intergenerational relationships can help to challenge these stereotypes and promote greater understanding and respect between generations. When older adults interact with younger people, they can share their experiences and perspectives, which can help to break down stereotypes and foster greater empathy and understanding.

In conclusion, intergenerational connections are important for older adults because they can improve their mental and physical health, increase their social support networks, provide them with a sense of purpose and meaning in life, and promote understanding between generations. As the population ages, it is increasingly important to promote intergenerational connections and programs that bring together people of all ages. By doing so, we can help to create more vibrant and connected communities that benefit people of all ages and backgrounds.

What is Ageing Process

 Ageing is a natural process that occurs in living organisms over time, characterized by a gradual decline in physiological function and an increased vulnerability to disease and death. It is a complex and multifactorial process influenced by genetic, environmental, and lifestyle factors.

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At the cellular level, ageing is associated with a range of changes including a decrease in cellular energy production, accumulation of damage to cellular components such as DNA, and altered gene expression. These changes can lead to a variety of age-related diseases, such as cardiovascular disease, cancer, and dementia.

While ageing is an inevitable part of life, there are things that individuals can do to promote healthy ageing, such as maintaining a healthy diet, regular exercise, reducing stress, and avoiding harmful habits such as smoking and excessive alcohol consumption. Researchers are also exploring various interventions and treatments aimed at slowing down or reversing the ageing process.

Ageing is the process of growing old or maturing, which involves a gradual decline in the functioning of various physiological systems in the body. This decline is a natural and inevitable part of the human life cycle and affects everyone as they grow older. Ageing can be characterized by changes in appearance, such as wrinkles and gray hair, as well as changes in physical and cognitive abilities. Some of the factors that contribute to ageing include genetic factors, environmental factors, lifestyle choices, and other external factors. While ageing is a normal and expected part of the human life cycle, it can also increase the risk of certain health problems and chronic diseases.

Remember Me Podcast: Empathy with Seniors बुजुर्ग से हमदर्दी

Listen to interesting perspective of  Sailesh Mishra - fonder of Silver Innings in this short soulful podcast on World Elders Day ( International Day of Older Persons) 1st October 2022. 

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